Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced, whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. Of course, everyone is their own person, but research shows that the opinions of others affect us more than we might think. While it’s ideal to be closely surrounded by positive, supportive people who want you to succeed, it’s also necessary to have your critics. According to a recent study, highly successful business people often ask those around them to tell them what they did wrong. While some individuals prefer positive feedback, experts want negative feedback so that they can progress and continue growing. When you think of those five people who have the greatest influence over your thoughts and actions, is there someone in your circle who cares enough to tell you when you are wrong?
Something to Think About
It definitely feels better to be surrounded by people who constantly tell you how wonderful and talented you are, but does that help you grow?
Take a look at your FIVE. Are they the five that you want to influence your life and actions? If not, consider replacing one or more of your five. It does not mean that you lose them as a friend. It means you spend less time with them and more time with those who reflect who you want to be and where you want to be.
Words of Wisdom
“It is more important to influence people than to impress them.” – Adrian Rogers
“One of the best ways to influence people is to make them feel important. Most people enjoy those rare moments when others make them feel important. It is one of the deepest human desires.”– Roy T. Bennett
“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napoleon Hill
“Attitude is greatly shaped by influence and association.”- Jim Rohn
“Think twice before you speak because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napoleon Hill